Yes after almost 4 months away from blogging, I have returned with another update. So much has been going on since my last post that it’s taken me a while to get my head around what I wanted to write about. Since the video I made in January there has been another death in the family.
ANGELA
On the 1st January 2011, the VERY first day of the year, my aunty Angela Dunthorne was taken in to hospital in Burnley. She had not been feeling too well, with problems sleeping and a painful stomach causing her not to be able to eat barely anything. After being in hospital just over a week, the hospital discovered that Angela was suffering from Ovarian Cancer.
The main problem with Ovarian Cancer is that by the time you know you’ve got it, it’s pretty much too late to do anything about it. I have been told this is the reason it has been nick-named ‘The Silent Killer’.
Angela was told she would have about 1 month to live, but she took in really well considering, and rather than just lay there and feel sorry for herself, she began making plans for her funeral and writing a will. It was a very traumatic time for the whole family as it all happened so fast and there was nothing anyone could do except to be there for her.
I find it very hard to accept that she is gone, as she was such an active person, holding down a full time job at our local B&Q in the garden centre. She would help anyone and was an excellent source of information on all things garden related. Her own garden was a pleasure to behold and she was very proud of all the hard work and effort she had put in to keeping it perfect.
But in February, Angela’s condition deteriorated and she passed away peacefully. Then of course came the funeral – Angela had opted for a full Catholic Requiem Mass, which I found to be a fitting end to her full and active life. It felt like it gave proper ‘closure’ on the life of such a wonderful person. It was a very upsetting day for all involved but as a family we seemed to pull through it relatively well.
After the funeral we all met at a hotel for the wake, including many members of staff from B&Q. It was here that I was to read the Eulogy for Angela. A 2 page document made up of comments and memories from the family. I was honoured to be the one allowed to read it. I got through it somehow, and in the days afterwards, I felt it had helped me to accept and move on from the 5 family deaths in the last 10 months. Again it was like ‘Closure’ of the whole upset and depression that comes with the passing of loved ones.
It still took me several weeks to really get my head back together and settle into a daily routine again after spending most of the last year visiting hospitals and nursing homes. My personal life was very much put on hold for the duration.
But now as we reach the end of April, with a week of fabulous weather, I’ve spent most it working on my garden, which Angela practically designed from scracth for me.
I went to B&Q to get plants to replace the ones that didn’t survive the harsh winter, and got all the weeding done, mowed the lawns and started work on leveling the back garden as it is a nightmare to mow with lumps and bumps everywhere. In my own little way my garden is my tribute/memorial to Angela without whose help my garden would not be anywhere near as nice as it is.
So in a small way Angela lives on through the fresh shoots and flowers that are starting to appear in my garden, and everytime I look at it my mind thinks of what she would say….
ELISABETH SLADEN
It was also sad to see the death of Actress Elisabeth Sladen this week, as Sarah-Jane Smith, one of my favourite Dr Who assistants and also brilliant in both the ill-fated ‘K9‘ series and her very own excellent ‘Sarah Jane Adventures‘ She lost her battle with Cancer at the age of 63.
May both Angela and Elisabeth Rest in Peace and may their memory live on forever…..